Ejaculation is a natural bodily function that occurs during sexual activity. However, for some men, the timing of ejaculation can be a source of frustration and embarrassment. Premature ejaculation, the inability to control ejaculation and last longer in bed, affects many men and can be a cause of relationship stress and low self-esteem.
The good news is that there are steps men can take to control ejaculation and last longer in bed. In this paper, we will discuss 5 tips for lasting longer and regaining control over ejaculation.
1. Practice Mindful Breathing
One of the main reasons for premature ejaculation is the body’s involuntary response to sexual stimulation. When a man becomes aroused, his breathing becomes shallow and rapid, and this can trigger a quick ejaculation. To combat this, men can practice mindful breathing techniques. Deep, slow breaths can help relax the body and prevent the urge to ejaculate. During sexual activity, men should focus on their breathing, taking deep breaths in and out. This can help to slow down the buildup of sexual tension and delay ejaculation.
Mindful breathing involves being fully present in the moment and focusing on the breath. It is a form of meditation that can be practiced anytime, anywhere. By incorporating mindful breathing into sexual activity, men can become more aware of their body and its responses. This increased awareness can help men identify the point of no return, the moment when ejaculation is inevitable, and take steps to delay it.
To practice mindful breathing, men can start by finding a quiet and comfortable place to sit or lie down. They should then close their eyes and take a deep breath in, counting to four. They should hold the breath for a moment and then slowly exhale, counting to four again. This process should be repeated several times, with the focus on the breath and the sensation of the air entering and leaving the body.
Once men become comfortable with mindful breathing, they can incorporate it into their sexual activity. This can be done by taking deep breaths during foreplay, oral sex, or intercourse. By focusing on the breath, men can reduce anxiety and tension, leading to a more satisfying sexual experience.
2. Try the ‘Start-Stop’ Method
The ‘start-stop’ method is a technique that involves stopping sexual activity when a man feels the urge to ejaculate. This can be done by either pulling out or stopping all movements. Once the urge has passed, sexual activity can resume. This method helps men to recognize their point of no return, the moment when they are about to ejaculate, and learn to control it. Over time, this can help men to last longer in bed and have more control over their ejaculation.
To practice the start-stop method, men can start by masturbating alone. When they feel the urge to ejaculate, they should stop all stimulation and take a few deep breaths. Once the urge has passed, they can resume stimulation. This process should be repeated several times, with the goal of increasing the time it takes to ejaculate.
Once men become comfortable with the start-stop method, they can incorporate it into their sexual activity with a partner. Communication is key in this technique, as men must let their partner know when they need to stop. This can be done by gently tapping their partner’s hand or shoulder or using a safe word. Once the urge to ejaculate has passed, sexual activity can resume.
3. Use the ‘Squeeze’ Technique
Similar to the ‘start-stop’ method, the ‘squeeze’ technique also focuses on recognizing the point of no return. When a man feels close to ejaculation, his partner can squeeze the head of the penis for a few seconds until the urge to ejaculate passes.
This method can be repeated a few times during sexual activity, and it can help to desensitize the penis and delay ejaculation. It also allows for a deeper connection and communication between partners, as both are actively involved in controlling the timing of ejaculation.
4. Try Different Positions
Certain sexual positions can help to delay ejaculation. For example, the missionary position, where the man is on top, can lead to quicker ejaculation due to the increased stimulation. Instead, trying positions where the man has less control, such as the woman on top or the spooning position, can help to prolong sexual activity and delay ejaculation.
Experimenting with different positions can also add novelty and excitement to sexual activity, reducing any performance anxiety that may contribute to premature ejaculation.
5. Use Condoms or Desensitizing Creams
Wearing a condom or using a desensitizing cream can help to delay ejaculation. Condoms reduce sensitivity, which can help men to last longer during sexual activity. Desensitizing creams contain a mild anesthetic that numbs the penis, reducing sensation and delaying ejaculation.
However, it is important to note that these methods should not be relied upon as a long-term solution. They can help in the short term, but it is important to address the underlying causes of premature ejaculation.
In addition to these tips, communicating openly and honestly with your partner about your concerns and desires can also help to alleviate performance anxiety and improve sexual satisfaction.
In conclusion, controlling ejaculation and lasting longer in bed is possible with the right techniques and communication. By practicing mindful breathing, trying different methods such as the ‘start-stop’ and ‘squeeze’ techniques, experimenting with different positions, and using condoms or desensitizing creams, men can gain more control over their ejaculation and improve their sexual experience. It is also important to remember that there is no set time for how long sex should last, and the most important aspect is the pleasure and connection between partners.
